On Being In The Presence Of A Child

March 2018

By Leslie Leline

 

Children are born beautiful beings of light and love. All children. When we see a baby, we are drawn in by their essence. We melt from the sparkle in their eyes and the honesty in their faces. They are open vessels of love.

In my opinion, our job is to offer only acceptance and honor for who they are. We can help them feel  confident and joyful about who they are; to love themselves as they are, by teaching them kindness, compassion and self-control.

We ought not squish and mold them, not to judge them or expect them to be somehow different than they are. They are just as they should be. We are all gifted, we are all on the spectrum, we all have struggles, we all have brilliance. The only label any one of us should carry is, Human Being.

When you see babies together, there is no judgement, no criticism, no racism. There is only delight and acceptance and connection. Judgement and intolerance are learned behaviors. Let us not be the ones who teach these.

By embracing each child exactly as they are, we allow them to notice their unique abilities and be proud and excited about who they are. When we offer them acceptance, love and respect , then we offer them a path to see the light that they are.

Children live in a place of true authenticity. They beam love and acceptance. They do not judge, they only seek kindness and acceptance. In every one of us is that little being of light and love. Lets work together to find our way back to our true selves.

My Journey to become an equine guided coach

January 3,  2018

By Leslie Leline

My intention is, and always has been, to help people find self love.To help them discover their true, beautiful selves. To trust and believe in their own wisdom and to know they are able. My goal is to find ways to help people see that they are absolutely exactly as they should be - a being of love.

As a young teen, I had the amazing good fortune to meet a marvelous black horse. I spent many days in his stall crying out my woes, nuzzling, grooming, walking and riding this being of love who never judged me, never turned me away, never criticized me, and continuously offered me a deep connection of trust and kindness  the likes of which I had not dreamed possible. From that time forward, I was determined to find a way to make a difference in the life of another. 

I started my journey as an art teacher, then a riding instructor, a parenting coach, and a preschool teacher. I learned about child development, brain development, social pressures, emotional traumas, and the damage caused by judgment and expectations.  Throughout  the years of these jobs, I was also bringing horses home who needed a fresh start.  Horses who had been treated poorly and had developed a variety of coping skills, not because they were good or bad horses, just because they were trying to find ways to survive  their environmental conditions.  With time, patience, consistency, respect, boundaries and love, I guided them calmly back to who they are without their story. And in turn, they did the same for me. I know beyond a doubt that it is the horses who helped me find my own way to self acceptance and love. They brought me to the very place I long to bring others. Horses provide a space of unconditional love and acceptance  where people can find their own balance of kindness and strength, love and respect, acceptance and non-judgement.

And now all those jobs and hobbies have come together into this remarkable space of being an equine guided coach. I am honored to have this job and am grateful every day to the horses who make it all possible.

 

Horses model  behaviors we admire such as respecting relationships, valuing intuition, embracing cooperation, and offering consistency. When you stand in the presence of a horse...this is the place of magic. We need only to know that it exists and allow the magic to unfold.

Teaching Kindness By Teaching Respect

Door County PulsePeninsula Pulse – September 28th, 2017​

By Leslie Leline

When it comes to kids, I believe that our job as adults, is to help them figure out who they are and then give them the tools to be successful with whatever qualities they were born with.

To achieve this, I believe we should teach them to respect themselves and each other.

Respect = compassion, acceptance, awareness & self-discipline = Kindness

The early years are when children develop their self-image. They develop this image from the information they receive, mostly from the adults in their lives. At the same time, they are trying to achieve their number-one goal:  social recognition, i.e. attention. Everything they do, they do not to be good or bad; rather, they do it to see if it fulfills that goal of getting noticed. And if it does, they will repeat the behavior. Then, the feedback they receive when they are noticed is the information from which they build a self-image.

Many people do a great job of using positive, encouraging words when a child is behaving appropriately. It is during difficult moments that tempers flare and word choices can cause children to think poorly of themselves. Words cast out in anger can demean and embarrass a child, stripping away at his self-love. In that same difficult moment, carefully chosen words can open a window to trust and respect by helping that child feel competent and valued while teaching him an alternative behavior.

When a child is behaving inappropriately, we can remind ourselves that this is a golden opportunity to teach. Take a deep breath, allow ourselves a moment to find our place of grace and calm, so we can have a thoughtful, productive conversation with a child. Problem solve together and then encourage him go try again and thank him for his efforts. By using a moment of inappropriate behavior to teach self-awareness, problem solving and compassion, we are contributing to that child’s development of a strong, positive self-image.

In thinking clearly about the words we choose, we can have a profound positive impact on a child’s future. When we teach children to respect themselves and others, they grow up with self-confidence and compassion, and then I believe the world will be filled with Kindness.

 

Compassion, Acceptance, and Kindness: The Legacy of Leslie Leline

By Lauren BremerDoor County Living – September 2nd, 2016

How does one change the world?

The question is as slippery and intangible as many of the answers one is likely to receive. But if you ask Leslie Leline, Peninsula Preschool’s lead teacher, while sitting in the breeze on her farm, drinking sun tea and munching garden peas, looking down at her horses grazing and twitching their tails, the simplicity and verity of her response is enough to turn that complicated question into a genuine solution.

“What I teach is respect — respect for yourself and respect for other people and respect means compassion, acceptance, kindness, self-discipline…so that when you grow up with that, you’re a tolerant, problem-solving, compassionate human being. That’s how you change the world.”

Leslie Leline, called Ms. Leslie by Door County’s three-year-olds and 50-year-olds alike, has been working with Northern Door’s preschool children for 30 years. Some people refer to her as a “miracle worker” when it comes to children and horses. Hang around these parts and its people long enough, and you’ll meet any number of former students and parents who refer to her as one of the most influential people in their life 10 or even 25 years later. You may overhear someone sitting at a nearby table at a restaurant say to their own child, “What would Ms. Leslie want you to do?” You may witness the outpouring of support and love people heap upon the school that she has made her life’s work to be open to the county’s children. And of course, like most passionate and talented leaders, when she’s told what an inspiration she is, she points out that she’s the lucky one.

“For me to have the luxury and honor of being in a room for 30 years at the preschool and being able to make a positive impact on how kids think about themselves, it makes me cry. I’m really lucky.”

Leslie and her husband Paul, a retired Sevastopol science teacher, have lived on the farm they’ve remodeled and built for just as long. Today, the farm is home to their horses, dog, cats and chickens. Back when Leslie and Paul fell in love and married, Paul liked to joke that he needed to say “I do, I do, I do, I do,” once for marrying Leslie, and three times for the horses she owned. Being a preschool teacher is only part of the work that Leslie does. She also works with troubled horses and their riders, teaching them many of the same skills she teaches her preschool students.

“When those horses come to me, they’re like kids who’ve joined a gang. They’ve been so abused, and they have to do what they have to do to survive. When they come here, I have to be that safe herd leader. I start over. With horses and with kids at preschool, we acknowledge their emotion first, and then just state the fact: ‘It’s never OK to grab.’ Then just breathe. And as soon as you do that, the kid’s like, ‘oh, there’s no temper, there’s no nothing?’ Then you can start to problem solve and try again. When you take the judgment and temper out, that’s how you get back to kids and horses.”

This kind of compassion and sturdy love is what those lucky enough to spend time with her are witness to. Leslie and Paul, through education, have touched the lives of so many children, including their own two daughters, now grown, Caitlin Hatch and Erin Leline. Leslie calls her children the center and light of her life.

“She always made sure my sister and I grew up believing in ourselves and believing we could do anything we put our minds to,” Hatch says. “She filled us with adventures, self-confidence and empathy. And she encouraged us to travel, live overseas and embrace other cultures and lifestyles. We learned to rely on ourselves and to be proud of ourselves even if we made mistakes.”

Leslie herself has lived a life of great adventure. She grew up on the near north side of Chicago near the Lincoln Park Zoo, remembering that she could hear the seals barking in the morning when she woke up. The director of the zoo lived in her building, so Leline recalls ailing or newborn animals that he’d bring home to care for, like a lion on Christmas Eve or a baby gorilla in a diaper that Leslie got to babysit. She cites these experiences as formative in fostering her love for animals.

Later she would begin her education at Lawrence University, spending one school year in London and thumbing around the British Isles, another in Colorado, some time traveling in Nicaragua, another school year at University of California — Davis, before finishing her degree at Lawrence in Art Education. She had spent her childhood summers in Door County, so the move was a natural one. One of her first jobs here, other than waitressing, was a challenging one.

“I got a job teaching parenting skills to parents who had abused their children and were court ordered to go to parenting classes, but wouldn’t show up to class. So they sent me into their homes to do the class. They didn’t have the luxury of having an education of other ways to conduct themselves. So I thought the way to break that cycle is to get to the three-year-old. That’s when I got really involved in early childhood education.”

Her tenure at the Peninsula Preschool has touched not only the lives of children, but parents as well. In 2010, Leslie was named Wisconsin Early Childhood Teacher of the Year and in 2008 she wrote a book titled The Parent Handbook:  A Quick Reference Guide to Positive Communication During Difficult Moments. Peninsula Preschool Board President and parent Kelly Fagundes notes the importance of Leslie’s legacy.

“I believe that Leslie’s legacy is the foundation she provides children at a very pivotal time in their development. She teaches children to embody confidence, to be caring and to be respectful of themselves and others. Students carry these qualities with them forward in their education as they develop into adults. Every child should have the advantage of a Leslie Leline to provide such a strong foundation for navigating through life.”

People often ask what makes Door County so special and so unique. It is my resolute belief that it is the people here. The landscape is varied and stunning and the culture is rich, but it’s the characters and individuals who are its beating heart. I wouldn’t say it’s reaching too far to suggest that so many of the county’s incredible people got that way, in part, by absorbing the soft glow of Leslie’s legacy:  compassion, acceptance, and kindness.

Contact

Leslie Leline

3359 County Road EE

Baileys Harbor, WI 54202

920-421-1012

leslie.leline@gmail.com

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